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Trying very hard to stay on track but can feel a total reset required come Monday after w’end family gathering with my children.

@missybear, @rainbowsmile & @snowflake56 – for some, relationships with our mums can be very fraught and difficult. It’s hard as the daughter to not grow up thinking you are not loved or worthy of love. I admire those that can cope with these feelings without them becoming self destructive. Glad @missybear and @snowflake56 you have found a way that works for you.
@redrockgirl302 – so love the sound of your lifestyle and @snowflake56 you write so lovingly of your OH and your shared love of food and cooking. My OH’s cooking repertoire extends as far as scrambled eggs on toast and apple crumble!

@michelinme – well done for staying in control and functioning with that workload. Positive vibes by the bucket heading your way from here! Good luck.

Ta x

Day 12 – Eastern WA USA – NFD

Planning to break LFD at supper tonight. Will be 72 hrs total at that time. So today is to be a OMAD.

I’m getting my car serviced and catching up on posts while I wait.

@snowflake56 – thanks for asking about my mom. Mom is still in the hospital since June 26th. Dad & my brother have done they’re part in getting her set up to move into a higher level of care at the place they’re in assisted living. She’s on “the list”. My dad still is her primary caregiver. Sometimes my brother & SIL bring a meal to my dad’s & they take mom across the street with the wheelchair to join them. Last time she ate really well & fed herself. It was my folks’ 69th Anniversary. We even had a family conference call that Mom participated in. At the hospital she usually has to be fed… It’s really interesting.

Have a good weekend everyone!

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@annemarilyn how long is the “list”? Will your parents be living together again or is this impossible because of different levels of care? The feeding thing is interesting, does she refuse to eat in hospital? Gosh, their 69th Anniversery, I don’t think I will ever get there, I would be 99 by then. I would love it though.

@dingping our mothers could be sisters. I think my mother is jealous, she doesn’t want me to be happy. She wanted my dad, but she didn’t want us. It’s just sad. DH is still in the kitchen cooking apples, I am hungry and I’m going upstairs before I ruin my FD. Sleep well!

Day 12 – UK – FD
Day 10 – 11 – NFD

I do hope that anyone who lives in western Florida and in southern Georgia in Hurricane Michael’s path have stayed safe

Very busy last few days and totally forgot to post 🙁Apologies all round

Managed to fit in a lovely walk this morning with friends before the predicted rain arrived so we stayed dry for our walk and it has not stopped raining since…… I’m marshalling for a fell race tomorrow and the the weather forecast is dire – rain all day long but at least it’s not cold – I’ll start the day in a dry tent doing registrations but finish the day in the field doing timings so waterproofs to the ready………….

Yesterday was a bit of EFS day so made up for it today with a good FD coming in under 400cals for the day!

@lorky35 – don’t get disheartened – the beauty of this WOL is the flexibility of moving FDs around to suit our lives
@annemarilyn – this is the recipe but it is way too sweet so I reduced the sugar content by 75gms and added fresh raspberries on top of the raspberry jam layer for a little bit of tartness
Coconut squares (gluten and wheat free) – Good Housekeeping
https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/uk/food/…/coconut-squares-gluten-and-wheat-fr..
@cornish-jane – an investment into some smaller yoga gear might be called for 🙏
@Strawberriesandcream – good news regarding your dad and good to hear a good NHS experience
@diana123 – Thinking of you and your OH during this difficult time with your failing MIL and great work for staying in maintenance during this emotional time in your house xx
@claire Suzanne – 🤭 done so forget about it and move on – we have all been there maybe not with a malt loaf but with our own 😈
@ciren2 – sounds like you need a few of these 🤗 🤗 🤗
@gretta @anna6 @snowflake56 – hope you are all feeling better
@rainbowsmile – I do use the free MFP and return to it when I need to regain some control of what I’m eating in a day, I find it helps keeps me focused……HIT Pilates is a workout designed to provide the benefits of HIT workouts while incorporating classic Pilates exercises to build core strength, tone your muscles, and improve flexibility.
@murph58 – welcome onboard – never too late to join a challenge month

Positive thoughts to all who are struggling at the moment – remember take a day at a time and with the support from this forum we will all get there 🤗

Weigh day for me tomorrow…………hoping that the damage from my EFS day 😈yesterday has been undone by today’s FD 😇

It’s still raining outside but much lighter – I’m off to get some sleep as I have an early start (for me!) tomorrow – need to be at the race start by 9am and it’s at least a half hour drive.

“Food is not the problem. It’s what we do with food that becomes the problem. That’s why we need to learn to keep everything in our lives – especially our eating – in proper balance.” -Joyce Meyer

Day 12 Canada NFD

Oh my goodness I am doing a terrible job of posting this month! It feels like life is too busy at the moment.

I have managed to keep to days a week as FD’s and have got to the point where I find them super easy, no real hunger pains or strong desire to eat. Lunches on NFD’s are another story altogether 🙁 As soon as I have finished eating I have craving for chocolate that I just can’t ignore. Crazy! So I surrender for now and will battle it at another point in time, my current strategy is to have a larger breakfast and skip lunch on NFD’s altogether. So far it’s working.

Thanks for posting in this forum- I catch up in fits and starts and it keeps me going.

Still Day 12 –

@snowflake56 – I don’t know how long the list is. I don’t think they would tell my Dad & brother when they asked. I don’t believe it’s a linear list but rather matching need for need. There are a couple of options and people have to have a certain level of care needed for different parts of the facility. At least they’re keeping my mom in the hospital across the street from my dad instead of shunting her off to the next town, which they did some time ago when she went in for a hip injury. No, they won’t probably be together but they will be on the same campus and with better care. At the hospital some days Mom eats, some days she spits it out; good days and not so good. There is definitely a dementia component which was initially spurred on by too much predizone for too long back in fall of 2009. Dad is 91 and Mom 88. Dad is doing amazingly well for his age. He is getting weary though.

@anna6 – I jotted down your salad again. I love your combinations & have tried some. Thanks for sharing.

Day 12 Minnesota, USA CFD

9:30 pm my time: only about 1000 calories so far, so will go to bed and call it a day. Finally, a good FD yesterday coming in under 500, but ended up having some veggies and not just liquids
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I started reading back over posts from about Day 4 as I’ve not had a chance to really read them well to this point. Not even half way up to present, but still skimming recent ones. What a great month of wisdom and support and compassion! I wish I could comment to each. Maybe once I get caught up I’ll be able to keep up better.

Birthday celebration tomorrow for SIL, so dinner with daughter and family, perhaps some wine as well.
Best of luck to everyone and enjoy the weekend.

Day 13, Emden Germany, FD

@ciren2 a few weeks can be long if your foot doesn’t heal well. On how many days per week you have to work, 5 or 6?

@northerndawn I think we’re all having problems keeping up with the incoming posts. A few days busy with other things and I’m way behind. Enjoy the celebration tonight.

@dingping I don’t think we have to turn out like our mothers. You’re so aware of how it affected your life and chose to do better with your children. Now they see her manipulative behaviour I’m sure they appriciate you loving care.

@annemarilyn it’s sad when couples married for so long have to live apart due to health issues. But living in the same facility will make it easier for them.

@at I hope it doesn’t rain all day so you and the the runners stay dry and the fells don’t get slippery. This morning we had a beautiful red sky, it will be a nice day overhere, ~24°C, perhaps to warm for a fell race.

@merryapple has the exhibition started already? Enjoy your time in London.

@emma-taylor you seem to do well! I decided to put my weight a bit higher, my clothes look better on me with a few kilos more.

Pocket list day 13, anyone joining me?

@snowflake56

Have a great weekend everyone!

UK NFD
Had horrible UTI and nasty antibiotucs, so my fasting came to a screaming halt. Will redouble efforts this week. Hope everyone is keeping well during the change of seasons.

Attempted catchup reading, it is not going to be a thing I can do.

Keep shaking up the world by shaking off that fat suit.

Jo

Day 11 UK NFD
Day 12 UK NFD

Just catching up with all the posts and staying out of the rain and wind.
Being very controlled on NFD and hoping to reach my weekly target of 0.8 Kg /week. I always need a target to aim for every week or I’m tempted to let things slide.

Good luck to everyone this weekend!

Day 13……Florida…..FD

Well guess what they put out at work? The terrible, terrible, candy dish! I was really hoping that the boss would forget about it this year……. she did not!

So, I’m FDing at home today. I don’t have much to do around the house but do have a bit of running around to do. So hopefully that will help.

I’m a bit behind in the post, so I figure when my mouth wants to eat, I’ll read a few post to get strength! I’ve got to do something because Cruella told me I gained 2 lbs!

Well, I’m off it very cool here this morning thank goodness, so I’m going to go out and enjoy it because it’s only suppose to last a day or so before it’s back up to the 90’s.

A nurse friend asked me where she could find scrubs, I said probably hanging out on the passenger side of his best friends ride!

Day 13, Gozo, Malta, cd

Thanks AnneMarilyn.

Today I had leftover chicken and vegetables and served them for lunch. For my son I fried eggs and steak as he likes them and for my pregnant daughter I made a tuna salad with eggs and sweet corn.

I’m 67.7 kilos. I want to be careful this weekend of what I eat so as not to gain a kilo until Monday.

Have a great weekend everyone

Day 13 USA (Illinois) NFD

Going to make today a CD despite going to lunch at a friend’s house. Might end up being a OMAD?

Onward and downward.

Day 13, London, UK, NFD (CD)

Late, late post!!!

Today will be controlled, despite the cinnamon swirl I had for brunch ……………………. Now there’s 300+ calories I’m NEVER getting back!!!

I think the UK & Ireland has been divided (East / West-ish) weather-wise today – 26+ degrees, windy but sunny …………. In OCTOBER!!!!! Donald, this is what we call ‘Global Wa……………………….. Oh, I can’t be bothered!!!!!!!!

@murph58, welcome to the challenge, nothing but support, advice and enough to read so you avoid THAT biscuit!!! I think I remember you from an earlier challenge too???

@merryapple, welcome to London, you should know that English beer has zero calories (even less if you’re visiting!!), no really, I read it somewhere!!!!!!

@dingping, your OH sounds like a keeper, all the food groups covered in 2 fantastic meals …………..….. what more does a girl need??? That’s efficiency at it’s best!!!!!

@redrockgirl302 ………………… thak goodness pumpkin kringles haven’t crossed the pond!!!! If I beg you to post me one, JUST SAY NO!!!!!

To all those struggling with their mothers, just remember, mothers are still women & women have the ability to hurt with just a look or a word, I don’t know why, but some of us strive to put other women down rather than lift them up so remember …………………………………
“Don’t always scrape & search for compliments. Criticism is what builds character & strength!” – Unknown

Day 13 Norfolk (UK) NFD

Sorry, been away from the laptop and not posted.

So I went for the interview. I was very relaxed going there, I think because I wasn’t expecting anything to come of it and because of the 3 bad reviews I’d read about the company/management.

I was in there for nearly 2 hours. I though I got on well with the 2 of them. (mother and son founders of the company). They mentioned that they had recently had a few “toxic” members of staff who were very negative and always moaning etc (I’m sure we all know people like this) and they brought the whole place down. They are no longer working there.

They told me I was a very strong candidate and would I come back for a second interview on Monday morning. They are seeing one other candidate too.

I have to go in for about 3 hours. It will be for them to show me a bit more about how things work, more questions and to be tested on a few pertinent things.

I thank everybody on here who has wished me well and been so supportive. It does mean a lot. x

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Energy dipping, getting random food thoughts so thought I’d take a look here glad I did!

Thanks @snowflake56 they (books) are great to escape into and live a different life for awhile.
Can you imagine the time & patience involved in making such a beautiful colourful film?
That’s sad about your dad and mum.
And @flourbaby LOL he’s definitely a keeper but not cause of his culinary skills, though he does make a mean crumble! Wise words as well.
I thought I’d reset the emotional button earlier in the week but hadn’t – fully have now, moving on.

Thanks both of you x

@claire-suzanne – very pleased for you that things went well yesterday. Keeping my fingers crossed. Well done.

@bert1802 and @ciren2 – hang in there!

@anna6 – Today I made…. have you thought of writing a cookery book? Your posts are a moment of slow reading as I taste and savour your wonderful recipes. Lucky family!

Take care everyone and ta x

Day 12, Guildford UK, MFD

I have heat and I have hot water.

I had a bath and I topped it up and then I topped it up some more.

Still MFD, but I came off keto, I had a baked potato with goats butter!

Mari

Day 13 – Chicago – NFD

Finally made it to Chicago for my fall break. Had to postpone the trip a day due to a beastly migraine. Does anyone else here get migraines, and what do you notice about how fasting affects them? I still don’t know what triggers mine, which is frustrating. Monday is supposed to be a normal FD, and this will be my first one where I’m not at home in my comfortable routine, so we’ll see how that goes.

Have a great weekend friends!

Day 14: Leeds, UK: NFD

Had a few days off – ToM was particularly bad plus can’t take the strong painkillers on an empty stomach. Trying to eat more intuitively on NFDs and escape the binge/restrict trap that is so easy to fall into. Also avoiding getting weighed more than once a week – bit weird as I get usually get weighed every morning but also very liberating.

Hope everyone is having a good weekend!

Day 14, England, ??

Thanks for asking after my Dad @snowflake56 and for your comment @at. He received a call on Thursday asking him to go back and see the consultant on Friday afternoon. We both thought there could be worrying news from one of the later blood tests. Fortunately that was all ok. Tuesday’s CT scan shows a possible return of a childhood illness and the consultant is being vigilant, wanted to explain the scan to us both and has organised further investigation on Tuesday. We are very impressed and so grateful. All too often you hear complaints that the elderly are not receiving the treatment they deserve because of their age and lack of funding. Well not in this case.

So my week went a bit off track but having added up total calories for the week, which only included one FD, I still remained within 7 day’s total TDEE.

@claire-suzanne – glad to read your interview went well and hope your second goes well for you.

May I join please? I know I’m late to the party.

Day 1 of this woe. This is a NFD. Monday & Thursdays will be my FD. Happy to say my partner is joining me which makes meal planning and cooking all the more easier.

In the previous 12 months I’ve lost about 20lbs following Keto. However my cholesterol & blood pressure have shot up as has my weight. Need to reverse the trend bdq with a sustainable woe. Nothing is banned and everything in moderation.

I’m reading, reading, reading to get a better understanding. Can anyone recommend any apps or threads that they have found useful. Thank you in advance. Peace & Love ❤️

Day 14, London, UK, NFD,

Welcome to the challenge @judyjudes have a look at the 1st post on page 1 from our lovely host this monht, @debster251, then just jump right in!!!

@merryapple, you sound like you’re having a blast!!! I’ve never set foot in any of those boutiques, simply because of the ‘size’ issue …………………….. maybe next year??!!

After yesterdays’ cinnamon swirl, I shared a small lunch with my mum followed by a chicken salad for dinner, 3 meal days are unheard of for me, but I’m learning to be a little more relaxed with this WOL, once I relax it all seems a bit easier and success follows!!!

Today will also be controlled, it helps when the house is devoid of salty or sweet treats ……………………… No temptation, I may OD on clementines though!!!

Enjoy the rest of the weekend folks!!!

Day 14 UK NFD

Managed to do a good FD yesterday, first proper one for October, so feel I’ve shaken off what ever was holding me back. Today will be a lovely day going to enjoy being with and feasting with my kids, hoping yesterday’s success will make me more mindful today.

@anna6 – just keep doing what you do it’s appreciated here by many. Thanks

@annemarilyn – thanks and hope the right care for your mum gets sorted ASAP so your parents can be close again.

@rainbowsmile – I can imagine the pure luxury after all this time.

@snowflake56 – please do not feel any angst over thinking you have prolonged anything, you haven’t in fact it’s good to talk otherwise these things swirl around my head. I didn’t fully explain, I got myself into a stew way before the impending visit to my mum’s. It’s an emotional time of year, my dad died ten years ago and his funeral was on my birthday and my visit to my mum’s coincided with my birthday and the anniversary of this. When I get emotionally beat up by stuff I go into self destruct mode for awhile, it’s a process I haven’t learnt to stop, the length of the process varies, yesterday’s FD ended that process and I do feel emotionally unstuck and can move on now. You and so many here have been very supportive, open and kind, thank you.

@merryapple – I do love the way I can live vicariously with you all. Life sounds fab and so joyful, hope your OH is enjoying all the attention and the high life too!

@judyjudes – welcome.

Very autumnal here in London, leaves swirling and rain showers, makes you feel alive just walking out the door.

Wishing good times to all

Ta x

Day 14 USA (Illinois) – DAFD (i.e. NFD)

Yesterday’s luncheon fell through, so it was pretty easy to make it into a good 510 calorie FD. Scale was kind this morning.

I am feeling like the solid 3 days a week I am doing Silver Sneakers could possibly be the reason behind a small gain. Then again, I have indulged in more sugars in the past couple weeks than I used to before. I will do my best to cut out the sweets and hopefully get back under my maintenance weight of #160.

@judyjudes – Welcome to you. Hope you’re able to read some success stories and feel the love at this forum. I hate to count calories, so My Fitness Pal has been terrific to ameliorate the pain. It’s very user friendly, and the free app is sufficient for me. On my phone and iPad both, synced to my Facebook account. Just don’t add exercise or it will allow you too many calories over TDEE.

Onward and downward.

Day 14 – UK – FD (800cal)
Day 13 – NFD 😈

Yesterday’s day marshalling was extremely wet, windy and muddy in the starting field but those hardy fell runners were out in force – 244 starters in horrible weather and all came back safely! I left at around 1.30pm, just before the eventual winner finished. I was worried about getting back home as the roads in that area are prone to flooding…….after a scary drive through some rather deep and long stretches of flooded road I got home……2hrs later some of the road stretches I had driven were unsurpassable and closed by the police……..This morning was overcast but dry thankfully – OH has gone out to explore how wet the fells are by going for a long run……mad fellow!

Due to the heavy rains yesterday DD rang to say she was staying the night with us as the roads to where she lives were closed – I had eaten a late lunch so was not planning on having dinner but ended up having a family evening meal which turned yesterday into a Feast Day with way too much food and wine!! Today I’m planning on a controlled 800cal FD follows by a 500cal one tomorrow🤞

I wandered into the village this morning and met up with a friend for a light brunch and a catch up. Now back home and we have blue skies and sunshine ☀️the vagaries of the English Autumn……..

@merryapple – welcome to the UK – you have been busy since you got here – have a fab visit x
@emma Taylor – I think for me the “correct weight” is the weight I feel happy and comfortable at ☺️
@snowflake56 – it was very 🌧🌬and muddy…..BTW I enjoyed both the links you posted x
@fasterjo – hope you are feeling better
@ciren2 – I’m pulling back on that wagon and might have to fit some sturdy seat belts to keep you in place 😉 so you can’t slip off again!!!!!!!!
@rainbowsmile – the joys of warmth and a long soak in a hot bath………
@arelkade – good to hear from you
@judyjudes – welcome to the October challenge – never too late to join

In view of the sunshine I think I might go out for walk and check out if the flooded areas from yesterday have receded if not cleared completely – much too nice to stay indoors now

Enjoy the rest of the weekend