65, at least 6 stone to lose, trying to like myself more, so I don't binge

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anniebc

8:11 pm
6 Apr 16
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Hello everyone As the title says, I have a lot to lose, and need to do this for my health and happiness. I’ve not managed to stick to a diet for even one day for years, as I have a problem saying no to myself (goes back to childhood).

But this week I’ve fasted one day easily, and been very restrained other 2 days. Very early days but I’m pleased – I find on non fast days if I don’t eat at all until after 11 or 12 noon, it is much easier.

I am trying to welcome hunger pangs telling myself, good it’s working. Lots of water helps.

The trouble is, I can eat mindlessly as a substitute for love and affection, and am lonely.I am trying to find strategies for dealing with this.

At present,I don’t like myself much at all, and I know this is bad, but how do I change?

It is all a vicious circle, as I think if I lose some weight and feel happier and more self confident, then others respond in a better way to me, and I feel happier.

I so want this to work. Sorry for rambling, I’m just trying to get my head sorted out, as that’s the only way I might succeed this time.

Lolly_

9:24 pm
6 Apr 16
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Congratulations on a successful fast day! You’re ready for change and you’ve found a tool that really works. Check out threads on the forum and you’ll find many people with experience and solutions to boost your own. Jump into a few! You don’t have to be alone any more.

All the best!

FastEnough

8:13 pm
7 Apr 16
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Hi Annie! I just started last week so I’m new and probably cannot offer words of wisdom. I’m sorry you’re lonely but you should love yourself. Don’t look down, look up. I have been contemplating joining an adult sport team. I have NEVER played an organize sport and cannot run to save my life but thought it would get me out to meet people and exercise. Have you thought about joining a community team? Dancing? Sports?

caspersmum

9:07 am
18 Apr 16
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Hi Annie. Your not alone in having these feelings, Im exactly the same. It affects my life because I have no self-esteem due to my weight. I have lots to lose so I decided its now or never. I started a few months ago and have now lost 30 lbs. It’s the easiest diet I’ve done and Ive tried most things.Yes it’s hard at times, especially when I’m upset or angry but it gets easier and the results are a worth the effort. It’s great having this forum and very helpful. Your not alone, we are all here to support you.

anniebc

7:36 pm
19 Apr 16
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Thank you all for replying I was being honest,I normally hide those thoughts! I am actually having a go at the Blood Sugar 800 diet, as the initial results appear to be quicker. I do try and not eat until lunchtime most days.I am doing quite well on it so far, have lost cravings for sweets and junk, which is unheard of for me, good luck to you all.

LA Chubster

8:14 pm
19 Apr 16
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Hi annie! You have described a major portion of my life! Basically, since my late 20s. I am 69 now and I also started out about 6 stones over a normal weight. I found *myself* humiliating so I avoided a lot of life.

I started intermittent fasting in the week before Christmas. As soon as I had fasted (I do 2 days back-to-back and don’t eat at all) I felt so much better. That feeling buoyed me on through Christmas (no cheating!) and by the time I had a couple weeks under my belt I was committed to that sense of well-being.

I’m about 4 months down the line now. And I really feel good about myself despite the fact that I have probably only taken off a third or so of the extra weight I carry. I have developed some mastery over myself — which, itself, is such an ego boost I can’t describe it. I’ve lost enough weight to see. I feel better than I did when I was 30 years younger. And even when I go off the rails a bit (seriously cheated over Easter) a fast straightens me out again.

The most amazing thing of all is the energy boost I’ve gotten. I have been a completely sedentary person almost all my life but, talking to people on these forums, I started setting a timer on my computer and getting up and moving around my house every hour. It was probably about 150 steps at at a time. Basically, NOTHING. But suddenly moving felt good. So I started climbing my driveway 6 or so intervals a day. Now, my driveway is l-o-n-g and S-T-E-E-P. I was doing great until it really inflamed my knee — which has no cartilage due to a fall and a break. So? Did I take that as an excuse to stop moving? Not on your life! Now I do 10 miles 5 days a week on a challenging cross country program on a recumbent bike at the gym. I come home dripping! Last night my husband wanted to go to the gym after work so I went along and did 7 more miles in addition to the ones I’d done in the morning. ‘Cause it feels great to move and to be *able* to move!

And despite the fact that I am still clinical morbidly obese I put on my spandex pants and shirt and march in the gym with all the hard bodies feeling indomitable. I. Am. Not. Ashamed. Of. Myself. Anymore!!!!

As for food, I am satisfied with the food I have on my food days and I don’t even *want* the things that were so counter productive for my whole life. Seriously. I don’t feel deprived at all. I eat a salad with beans for protein at lunch and usually some salmon and veggies for dinner. I enjoy it. I have all I want (I don’t count calories on my food days). And if there’s something I truly miss I have it occasionally just before I fast again.

OK. So shut that woman up. I’m tired of her bragging, right? But, REALLY, it’s not the ex-me who was a slug who get to take the credit for this. It’s what intermittent fasting has done! I promise you if you do one clean month you’ll be amazed at the difference in how you feel.

Here are a couple important tips:

• As Dr. Mosley says, when you get hungry you WILL NOT get more and more hungry. If you keep busy and hold out you will see that you’re hungry and then later you’re NOT anymore. Simple as that so you might was well just knit or shop or go bowling and wait the hunger feelings out.

• Take a multivitamin and a probiotic supplement. The vitamins will provide insurance for your nutritional needs. The probiotic will start populating your body with the beneficial bacteria that will aid digestion and crowd out the noxious bacteria that want all the bad foods. Add fermented foods to your diet too, like yogurt, cheese, etc. They’ve also got probiotics.

• Figure out if you have trigger foods that start your cravings and kiss them good-bye. They are what messed up your life. A month after you’ve given them up you won’t care about them anymore. I don’t eat ANY grains, for instance.

• Stick around these forums where people are there to support you and cheer you on.