Loss of willpower !!

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muffintopgirl

8:35 am
27 Aug 15
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I have tried this diet before and I did lose some weight but then I lost my dad to Dementia and that was it. I couldn’t be bothered with walking (which I love) or following the 5:2 diet. Now I’ve piled the weight back on but I still can’t find the willpower to start again. I read these forums and although I’m happy for other peoples success with the diet, it just makes me feel more depressed that I’m a failure and I sink even lower into the depths of despair. Anyone got any ideas for a kick up the proverbial ?

And… exhale

10:38 am
27 Aug 15
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I’m really sorry to hear that you’re having a tough time – sounds like you could do with a big hug rather than a kick…

Not meaning to get all cosmic, but it’s so difficult to give yourself the love you need to look after yourself properly when you’re feeling depressed. Is there anyone you can talk to, to help you find yourself again?

Maybe setting yourself some smaller goals, like getting out for a short walk this weekend, or just starting to note what you’re eating and how it makes you feel, might be helpful. You’ve managed 5:2 in the past, so you know you can do it again, when you’re ready.

Carcraig

12:13 pm
27 Aug 15
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It’s easy to say “once I’m in the right frame of mind, I’ll try again”, but sometimes you just have to accept that you’re not going to be in that frame of mind for a while and give it a go anyway. Grief is an awful thing and strikes us all in different ways. It takes time to come to terms with such a loss and you shouldn’t beat up on yourself if things have slid from where you want them to be. Start with just the diet days (or maybe just one) and don’t worry about the other days to start with, they will sort themselves out in the end and you may still lose weight anyway. If you don’t feel like going for a walk, don’t. But don’t feel guilty. Just take your time and slowly get back on track. As the previous poster said, you know you can.

bluezoo

1:49 pm
27 Aug 15
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I am sorry to read this muffintopgirl and I agree with the other posts. Be gentle and kind with yourself at this time of grief. Talk to yourself as if you were your best friend. Make small goals, have a day where you plan lovely clean nourishing foods with a walk planned in as well. It will remind you that it feels good to treat your body well.

Fast days you can build in again later but maybe start with some healthful days where you avoid ‘dirty’ junk foods but can eat freely of all high nutrition foods. I recommend reading the Gabriel method and downloading his visualisation. It is really helping me to relax before going to sleep and setting me up with some positive thinking.

I really hope you feel motivated again soon. Dementia is cruel as we tend to lose people twice. Hope you have many happy memories to reflect on.

Best of luck and wishing you a peaceful mind

Expat

5:32 am
28 Aug 15
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You are grieving…I am so sorry for your loss.

Is there someone you can talk to or a grieving group you can join? It may help.

Many hugs.

Lololondon

8:09 am
28 Aug 15
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Hey there… Your post really moved me … It is so normal to sometimes not be able to be happy for others because your grief is so overwhelming… Don’t feel guilty. I know it’s hard, but working every single minute if every day to give yourself self love and support instead of a guilt trip is what will really make a difference in the end.

In terms of other tips, I can recommend two things: one is mindfulness: trying to meditate will help with the guilt, the grief and the stress… It will really make things different, I promise (happy to talk you more heough it if you like)
Second thing is; try to rebalance your eating: for me the first step was doing 3 meals a day with an afternoon snack and that’s it! Also try to keep the alcohol to a minimum, its such a huge depressant…
Just keeping this 3 meals a day structure, even when you have a slip, even when you binge, really helps with making healthier choices. Also try to do soft abd easy exercise, like walking, pilates and yoga, and do a little bit every day.
No need to challenge yourself to a fast day or a 1h run… It will most probably all end in tears, feeling like a failure and bingeing (believe me, I know…). So start small and keep posting what you’re doing!!!
Promise we’ll support and encourage you… You dont have to do this all on your own…
Lots of love and courage for the day