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  • I completely agree with you about the importance of the mental state in weight loss. The biology part means that if you were locked in a room for a year and your food was appropriately controlled, you’d lose weight. The problem with that is, if nothing else changed within you, the weight would likely start piling on again the minute you were free.

    Living in the world of choices, what I’m seeing is how many of those around food have been emotionally driven. Looking back at my years of struggling with diets, I was struck by the word “struggling”. Why would I be fighting against something that was good for me? What was my reward for self-sabotage? Where was the benefit? It only makes sense when I understand that using food to relieve anxiety was more important to me than how I looked. As a bonus, I was able to avoid dealing with the real issues by seeing obesity as the thing holding me back.

    Food was my solution until it became my problem. Then I was stuck.

    I’m not sure that I have words to describe what has changed for me. My mind shifted. I’ve stopped struggling. Acceptance has replaced resistance, and somehow I have learned to bend with the wind. I can picture myself at a healthy weight and know that, slowly but surely, I will get there. I also know that this is the least important thing about me today.

    I have absolutely no doubt that others hold you in far higher regard than you hold yourself, Fuvvie. I know I do. 🙂

    For the question who I am,I have only one answer – Me.

    Live is much more complected and at the same time simple.

    Complected, because there are always another side of the story, another point of view. Majority of people act as they believe is good and for greater benefit, everybody is trying to justify what they are doing. It is very rare that a person do evil just for the sake of evil. The more you know the others people sides, the others angles of the stories, the harder it is to blame the certain person. You start to understand why people acts this way or that way, what motivates each action. We also judge other people and ourselves based on our experience, and because our experiences are so different, our judgement is different as well.

    At the same times life is simple. Sometimes all experience, all logic, all thinking and planning do not work. You act because it feels right, simple like that. It feels right – and you do it.

    Well, now it feels right to stop writing and start working! Good buy, my friends. Enjoy your life one day at the time. 🙂

    Absolutely the right answer, coldpizza — all we ever have to be is ourselves. Simple. Not easy, but simple. The empathy you describe makes understanding more likely and judgment less so. I do hope the adjustments you’re making will help you find your feet again.

    It’s Wednesday Weigh-In time. I was away last week so this covers a fortnight and I’ve dropped 2 pounds. Happy to see the numbers, but I was more thrilled to pull out a pair of jeans I couldn’t button up last time and discover that the waist is loose! I don’t want to spend a lot on clothes on the way down, so I’ll take some of my old stuff down to the charity shop and see if I can find some new-to-me things to tide me over. That, and a bit of elastic in a few waistbands, should do the trick.

    Looking in the mirror and realising that my old clothes were positively flapping on me was a brilliant moment. I’m more than 1/3 of the way to my goal and if I just keep going as I have been — one day at a time — I’ll get there.

    17 st./4 lbs.

    Yay Lolly. The mirror has become your friend. Loose clothes are a real testament to your progress. I’m busy retrieving my January weight after really losing the plot in February. I’m kicking myself as I read Back2the future’s progress in February. She started this gig in 2016, 2 days after I did and has lost 89 lb, which is just 6 kilos less than I had to lose. Perseverance is the key. I’ll be keeping an eye on her as she is in maintenance trying to get the last 10 lb off. I’ll be using her as well as yourself and Buttonboots as my inspiration. Lovely to see Coldpizza taking control again.

    You have only 5 lb to go to be in the next bracket of 16 stone. You walk the walk as well as talking the talk.

    What a splendid result for back2thefuture — and such proof of how this works when we work it!

    I do get the kicking oneself part, Fuvvie. I did that for a couple of months until I was able to finally let it go in January. “Why did I do this?” “Why didn’t I do that?” “If only…” “Now I have to regain lost ground…” “I’ve wasted time…” All completely unproductive and perilously close to self-sabotage.

    My year anniversary is coming up this month and while I won’t be able to say that I’ve lost 89 lbs., I will be able to say that whatever weight I have lost isn’t coming back to MY future. 😀

    Switching out my flapping old clothes for ones that fit better has been an interesting experience. I liked seeing how loose my old ones were becoming but I was surprised by the difference I saw with new ones on. The brain doesn’t really “see” what it thinks it already knows. There’s a lesson in that somewhere for me…

    Congrats, Lolly! Great job!

    Thanks, coldpizza — I truly appreciate the support. 🙂

    It’s Wednesday Weigh-In time and I’m so pleased to report another 2 lbs. dismissed this week. Not doing anything spectacular, just a simple one foot in front of the other. I look back occasionally and marvel how far down the road this approach has taken me, and I am filled with gratitude.

    17 st./2 lbs.

    Absolutely sensational Lolly. True grit. So close. No bingeing in your camp, and it shows what can be achieved. You are filled with gratitude and I am filled with admiration.

    HOORAY!!!
    DRUMS and TRUMPETS!!!

    It’s Wednesday but no weigh-in as I’m not at home this week. I’m going well under somewhat stressful conditions, but very much looking forward to a return to my own routine. Not to mention my own food.

    Seems like you are on a prolonged break, Lolly. I hope the stress isn’t too much for your body. Talk soon.

    It was a bit more of a break than I’d expected, Fuvvie, but so glad to be home again. My own bed — and my own kitchen! Bliss.

    This visit was different because I chose to make it so. I had promised myself some time ago that there would be no more “go along to get along” when it came to my food, and I’d thought long and hard about how to achieve that without being a nuisance to anyone else. In the end, it was so ridiculously easy to do that I realised with a bit of a shock that the only one putting up barriers to my success in the past was — me.

    With this knowledge comes power. If the problem is me — the solution is in my control. Light bulb moment.

    I eat perfectly normal stuff. I just don’t eat ALL perfectly normal stuff. I can take care of my needs without fuss. So any social pressure is in my head, and I can address it there. By changing myself, I change how people respond to me. I noticed with interest that people no longer press me to eat sweets or snacks, now that I genuinely don’t want them.

    There was enough drama in this visit without my having to worry about food! And when I stepped on the scales this morning I was delighted to see that I’d passed a milestone. So for once it’s a Monday Weigh-In because I need to celebrate no longer being 17 stone anything. Slow but steady, this tortoise is winning the race. 😀

    16 st./13 lbs.

    Wednesday Weigh-In and the news continues to be good — down another pound.

    I had noticed some time ago that milk wasn’t agreeing with me but as I’d switched to cream for my tea and coffee it wasn’t a big issue. When a friend introduced me to kefir I was intrigued because the starter bacteria which causes the fermentation consumes the lactose during the process — and it is that lactose which commonly causes intolerance problems. I wasn’t interested in drinking the kefir since the carb count was higher than I wanted but by straining off the whey I was able to produce a creamy kefir cheese. It’s low-carb, deliciously tangy, an aid to digestion, and useful in recipes. And unlike commercial versions, I know exactly what’s gone into it. Plus I get to feel like a mad scientist in my own kitchen every few days. 😀

    16 st./12 lbs.

    Wow Lolly you’ve done absolutely amazing 🙂 You must feel great! Proof that this way of life is do-able long term 🙂 I had a long break from it, and started again in January this year .. I’m down 11 lbs so far, but from reading your progress I wish I’d never stopped what I was doing!

    Your an inspiration!

    Take care xx

    Thank you so much, Dragon Fly — lovely to see you back again! Congratulations on the weight loss. Sometimes a break is what we need to test our truth, and it sounds like you’ve found the path which works for you.

    The 5:2 way of life is definitely do-able. And I don’t mean in a white-knuckling self-denying style, either. I love the food I eat and I love the way I eat it. My body has changed but so has my thinking, and that’s what’s made the difference.

    Today is all we ever have. But it’s all we ever need. Make it a good one!

    Your positivity is fantastic Lolly 🙂 Its definitely about getting the thinking right, previously I’ve done ok, but have never been completely in the right mind-set. Since January however I’ve looked at things differently, in that its the way I live my life now, rather than something I have to do for an end result. It really helps. Its amazing how I actually enjoy fast days and have even done several back to back ones! Unheard of previously!

    Have a lovely Friday, I’m so glad its almost weekend 🙂

    Take care, and thank you so much for the welcome back xx

    Hi lolly, you have great positive out look, a role model and so much sense here to inspire! Thankyou!x

    Dragon Fly and Rocy, what kind words — thank you so much. I have found so much inspiration on this site myself and am thrilled if anything I have recorded here for my own benefit has helped you.

    You’re so right about this being a way of life change, Dragon Fly.

    When the penny dropped for me last year, it ended a lifetime of miserable dieting and binges. I will never “diet” again, but thanks to 5:2 and LCHF I’m losing weight without any sense of deprivation.

    I began before Easter last year, and was flying on sheer faith when I gave up sugar and wondered how I’d survive a major chocolate festival. This year, I know logically that Easter treats are out there, but I can’t recall seeing any.

    If I can get one single message out to people it is this: ditch the sugar. Start with the obvious stuff, but then look deeper into where it is hidden. And for those of us who are particularly sensitive, learn about how carbs are changed into glucose in the body.

    Why do I harp on about this? Until you give it up, it’s hard to believe how addictive sugar is and how it controls your desire to eat. But once you do, the clarity is amazing. My initial motivation was to avoid going on meds for Type 2 diabetes, but it has led to so much more: improved mood, regular sleep, clear skin, and increased energy — to name just a few.

    I realise that the prospect of major change is daunting. My back was to the wall before I did it, and I don’t think many of us change before we have to. The “should”s rarely win. But anyone who has read this thread and sees themself needs to know that there is hope and a real solution when you’re ready. My plan was built to fit me — yours may look quite different. But 5:2 can accommodate that.

    This is my Wednesday Weigh-In and another pound down. And this Easter, I fear no bunnies. 😀

    16 st./11 lbs.

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    Dragon Fly and Rocy, what kind words — thank you so much. I have found so much inspiration on this site myself and am thrilled if anything I have recorded here for my own benefit has helped you.

    You’re so right about this being a way of life change, Dragon Fly.

    When the penny dropped for me last year, it ended a lifetime of miserable dieting and binges. I will never “diet” again, but thanks to 5:2 and LCHF I’m losing weight without any sense of deprivation.

    I began before Easter last year, and was flying on sheer faith when I gave up sugar and wondered how I’d survive a major chocolate festival. This year, I know logically that Easter treats are out there, but I can’t recall seeing any.

    If I can get one single message out to people it is this: ditch the sugar. Start with the obvious stuff, but then look deeper into where it is hidden. And for those of us who are particularly sensitive, learn about how carbs are changed into glucose in the body.

    Why do I harp on about this? Until you give it up, it’s hard to believe how addictive sugar is and how it controls your desire to eat. But once you do, the clarity is amazing. My initial motivation was to avoid going on meds for Type 2 diabetes, but it has led to so much more: improved mood, regular sleep, clear skin, and increased energy — to name just a few.

    I realise that the prospect of major change is daunting. My back was to the wall before I did it, and I don’t think many of us change before we have to. The “should”s rarely win. But anyone who has read this thread and sees themself needs to know that there is hope and a real solution when you’re ready. My plan was built to fit me — yours may look quite different. But 5:2 can accommodate that.

    This is my Wednesday Weigh-In and another pound down. And this Easter, I fear no bunnies. 😀

    16 st./11 lbs.

    Lolly, hope you have a wonderful Easter, minus the bunnies haha!

    Sugar is bad news .. I’ve not cut it out completely, but I certainly know that the minute I have sugar the desire to eat is overwhelming. Its crazy isn’t it.

    I do love this way of life, it can be tailored to fit us all, individuals with different reasons for doing it, and it works! I’m 11 lbs down since Jan, and feel so much better already. I feel I can resist the Easter temptations myself this year … the weight coming off is much more satisfying that any chocolate/sugar filled so called treat would be LOL !!

    Take care Lolly .. speak soon x

    Hi Lolly. Good to see another drop on the scales for you. I hope you’ve had a lovely Easter. Ours was very busy and lots of food on offer. I’m immersing myself in Jason Fung videos on YouTube. That man is so clear in his presentation of the facts. I bought Michael Mosley’s Fast exercise book yesterday. I haven’t started on it yet but plan to engage in a bit of basic movement as I get back into the groove. My garden is loving the attention I have started giving it. I’m excited to see the trees grow. I’m also reading Fadt your way to Wellness and it offers a lot of inspiration as well. I feel like I’m starting a new year and in terms of 5:2, that is exactly what I’m doing. Sugar is out of the door again. Talk soon.

    Hello Lolly, I’ve checked in here several times over the past month and missed you. I had dropped my bundle but have picked it up again, so to speak. I’m hoping you are well and away on family business as has happened so often before. You are often in my thoughts and one of the main reasons I’m endeavouring to get back on track. Big hugs. 💐💐💐

    Hi Lolly,

    Like Fuvvie, I too keep checking this thread for any updates from you 🙂

    I hope you are well.

    Sending lots of love xx

    Just touching base, Lolly. Wondering if you get these messages in your inbox and know that I am thinking of you. Hope all is well. More big hugs xxx

    Hi Lolly,
    Have started a new month and full of determination. Managing to shed a bit. Wondering how you are travelling. all the very best, Heather aka Fuvvie

    It feels a bit surreal to be back here again and thinking about self-care. For the past few months I’ve been involved in providing palliative care for someone else and I put my own needs on the back burner. I’ll always be glad that I was able to do it, but I’m tired.

    Now, it’s time to re-group but I find myself resisting. Not sure why. But I know that I don’t have to understand it in order to do the right thing.

    Anyway. I’m back, I’m sugar-free, and I’m on a fast day.

    Thank you for the welcoming messages — I hope you’re all doing brilliantly well.

    Lolly, lovely to see a post from you 🙂 Hope your fast day goes/went well .. sometimes its quite difficult to get back into a routine, but I know you can do it!! I’ll be here cheering you on. Take care, and welcome back!! xxx

    Lolly,
    It is so exciting to see you back! 🙂

    Hi Lolly, Just a quick note to say I hope all goes well for you in the self care department. It was a relief to see you back. It’s funny how one gets so used to a presence and then it disappears and leaves this empty space. Stay well. Hugs, Fuvvie xx

    “Empty space” is how I’m still feeling, Fuvvie. I can’t seem to be enthusiastic about moving forward yet. In the old days, I’d have binged myself into oblivion but that’s not an option any more so it’s just one day at a time. I’m not eating badly but am resisting fasting. Not sure what that’s about.

    I can’t tell you how encouraging it is to see you all here still. I have missed you.

    Losing initial numbers have always been really tough for me as well. But later on I started drinking warm water completely and my weight is constant even if I had cheese burst twice last week.

    Hello Lolly,
    Getting back on track can be oh so difficult. Having actually binged myself all the way back to within 1.7 kgs of my starting point, I am finding it hard to forgive myself and make the right choices. I guess that’s called taking the easy option. But I long for the delightful feeling of a fast well done, when it was easy as no choices had to be made. Why are self destructive habits so much easier than health promoting habits? At least we here in Australia are heading into summer soon and salads look a lot more attractive. I was reading today that it is all about saying “I can” and repeating it over and over till it becomes a reality. My subconscious believes what I tell it apparently.
    You probably just need to give yourself time to get over the emotional roller coaster that you must have been on providing palliative care to another soul, before expecting to bounce right back into your old routine. Being on a journey like that makes you question everything and it’s not easy to turn the spotlight back onto yourself. Give yourself time. Thinking of you on this leg of your transition to the new you. Hugs, Fuvvie xx

    Hi Lolly, I agree getting back on track is difficult. You will do it, just give yourself time and don’t put too much pressure on yourself. A day at a time 🙂

    We’re always here for you.

    Hugs x

    Hi Lolly,
    Looks like you’re offline now. If you see this at all, know I still have you in my thoughts. A lot can happen in 7 months. Cheers, Fuvvie🤗

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